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And from that importance, we will learn that chatting and chat writing are not excluded
from the rule of mirroring yourself. Pay attention to every detail of how you communicate
through texting, from your choice of font style, to general chatting manners as it will defi-
antly effect where you will be in other people's world. A person tend to mingle with who-
ever looks like them, talks like them and walks like them, without any previous awareness
of them.
It is absolutely a subconscious behavior and you don't need to worry about whether they
might think that you are copying them because you will not be “copying” theme, you will
be “mirroring” them, and there is a huge difference between the two.
Let's say your friend is writing to you in a font sized 14 and with red color and started
with: “Hello friend” Your proper answer would be in a font size 14 and a torques color
(since the aura of red is torques and visa versa) and your starter greeting would be “Hello
dear”
This process is mirroring, whereas copying would be responding everything the same way
your friend did. Copying can easily bother others and make them feel uneasy. For ex-
ample, you see a friend wearing a jacket and shoes that you like and you go out the next
day and buy the same outfit. This won't help you strengthen your relationship with your
friend, as that behavior will cause the exact opposite and you will look like a follower or a
clone of your friend.
Make this principle a rule of living. Observe your behaviors, adjust your attitude and keep
an eye on the results.
In a way that allows others to feel safe being around you and yet you still get to be your-
self. Speaking of being yourself let me tell you a little story about my daughter. She likes
to dress the same way I do. One day I wanted her to zip her jacket up since the weather
was a bit cold and I asked her to zip it up but she refused explaining that she was feeling
warm. I responded by saying, “yes it is now a bit warm”, so I unzipped my jacket just like
her and she was thrilled that I did the same as her. After few minutes I said “it is starting
to get a bit cold, don't you think so”? She said “yes” and we played for another few
minutes and I said “oh I'm feeling cold”, and zipped my jacket up.
She unconsciously zipped her jacket up too, reinforcing what I said. It was an exercise of
perfect mirroring and it started with me mirroring her and ended up with her mirroring
me. In the end, we both won as her thoughts were not discounted by my forcing her to do
something she didn't want to do, and I got the behavior that I desired from her that was in
her best interest without looking like a controlling Mother.
